Yesterday I was invited to hold an IGNITE TALK at 12min.me in Hamburg. Many friends of mine from all over the world asked me whether they could attend via livestream but there was none. And as the audience was all German I held my speech in German. The video will be online soon but will not help my non-German-speaking friends. Therefor I decided to write this article in English so all my international friends can participate. Thanks Lisa for motivating me to do this!
In the last weeks I randomly thought about what I should tell people who don’t know me and what I do and what could be an anchor to build a bridge to my programme LOVE YOURSELF MORE. Especially in crowds where business is more in focus than personal development or even spiritual awakening I thought I would need something catchy to get their attention.
And then Donald Trump won the US election. In the first moment I was frustrated that this had really happened. Not really surprised as I had followed the latest happenings in UK and Europe with Brexit, Wilders in the Netherlands, Le Penn in France and even the AFD in Germany but that is another topic… What made me turn into a shock-like state was scrolling down my social media threat seeing how the people reacted. Almost everybody seemed to be surprised, shocked, panicked, even aggressive. This made me even more sad than the actual outcome of the election.
Suddenly I felt something like an inner voice saying : NOW is the time. You have to do something about this. Preserve the people around you from getting stuck in the fear and helplessness they seem to slide into. Be the light and show them how they can implode their own light as you already do. But be bigger. Enable others to trust in their own power and become active. Be a peacemaker. Inspire your people to be peacemakers too. Ignite everyone you are meeting to be a peacemaker too. WE ARE THE ONES WE HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR.
So my topic for the IGNITE TALK yesterday was set. Enjoy the read!
How to be a peacemaker in 12 minutes!
I am very happy to be here tonight given the opportunity to speak about a topic for the first time that is coming from the bottom of my heart.
In the next 12 minutes I will inspire you to be a peacemaker. I know each and everyone of you can be one. You can start right away and I will show you how easy it is.
When I woke up on the morning after the election I was not really surprised by the actual outcome. Observing what is happening in the UK with Brexit or in the Netherlands, France and even Germany where people with populistic and racist attitudes become more and more powerful Trump being the new president of the U.S. seems to only confirm that we are in a difficult state right now all over the world.
Scrolling down my social media threats I was really shocked seeing so many people trapping in the same attitude Trump is showing and being accused by so many of those who now do the same.
Deepak Chopra made a really good point in his article following the election day: (We have to) „…abandon the seductive allure of false consciousness, in particular the state of separation that engenders all divisions, either inside ourselves or in the outside world. We accept “us versus them” ultimately because there is a “them” inside ourselves. It consists of the shadow self we hide form and deny, which harbors hatred, fear, aggression, and the dread of death.“ ..“You must first see that the world’s wrongs have their seed in you. Only then does the familiar axiom of “Become the change you want to see in the world” stop being a cliché.“
But what does it really mean to „be the change you want to see in the world“?
Mahatma Ghandi made a clear point in the origin of the sentence saying „YOU MUST BE THE CHANGE“.
We have the responsibility to change to allow change happen in the world. If we do not start with ourselves but move on pointing our fingers to the others – the „them“ – we are part of the situation we are in.
I can already sense some of you stepping in resistance using excuses like „but what can someone like I really do“, or „why me, I did not do anything wrong“ or even „the situation is helpless, we will not be able to change it“.
I brought three different examples that I will present shortly to emphasize why each and everyone of us needs to understand that we are all in this together. Each and everyone of us can contribute to change our situation and I will show you how.
Mirror neurons are the neural basis of the human capacity for emotions such as empathy.
You all know the effects of this neuronal system: when you watch someone cutting vegetables and cutting his finger you shiver as if you would have cut yourself. For sure this also works for romantic emotions as well.
So think about your responsibility. It matters whether you walk around badmouthing or complaining all the time. Maybe next time before a meeting room you take a minute with yourself to drop your anger or bad mood before entering the room and effecting other people.
Masuro Emoto observed in his art project „Massages from Water“ from 1999 to 2008 that human consciousness is influencing water. They used water that was distilled twice which after giving it messages was frozen and then photographed under the microscope. Emoto used different massaging systems as giving good words, playing good music, and showing, playing, or offering pure prayer to water. They also made experiments with the opposite. The results are shown in the pictures here.
And now think about that our body contains approximately 60% water. Even if you will not call the experiments scientific you might understand that there is an influence of what we expose our bodies to. Imagine the difference of being in the quite nature vs in a busy city and what that does to the water in your body.
Just like how seismographs are used to measure earthquakes, Dr. David R. Hawkins developed a method to measure a person’s energetic frequency on a specific Vibrations Scale.
He used a muscle-testing technique called Applied Kinesiology to determine where people are on this scale. The research was scientifically validated and published in Dr. Hawkins’ doctoral dissertation titled Qualitative and Quantitative Analysis and Calibrations of the Level of Human Consciousness, an elaborate discussion of the Scale of Consciousness and its significance as outlined in his groundbreaking book, Power vs. Force: The Anatomy of Consciousness (Veritas Publishing, 1995).The numbers on the scale are arbitrary, the significance lies in the relationship of the levels to another.
As you can see, feelings like love, joy and peace vibrate at high, uplifting frequencies, while heavy emotions like sadness, guilt or humiliation vibrate at low frequencies.
Hawkins pointed out that the world’s average energy level lies around the level of 200Hz which he assigned to the emotion pride. Compared to the levels below it this is the point where people start to feel positive. Due to it’s dependent on external conditions such as wealth, position or power this emotional level is also the source of racism, nationalism, and religious fanaticism. This makes it obvious why it is so important to take responsibility to uplift our personal vibration.
Love and joy are above 500 Hz. Naturally this is the level of vibration we are longing for. And it is not out of reach.
Let me give you some examples how you can start today to lift up your energy level.
Start meditating. Yes, I know. For most of you it will be tough in the beginning. Life seems so busy and time is running. But I have to tell you the truth. It is only that way because you are allowing it to be. Mainly it is a decision. And you do not have to get up at 4 o’clock in the morning to meditate. Why not use the waiting line in the supermarket or using the dish-washing up. Some people meditate in the public transport system, some go on a walk and breathe while walking in the woods.
The core is to focus on your breath for a moment. Even if it is only two minutes. Start focusing on your breath, stay with it, let thoughts come and go and whenever you are disctracted go back to your breath. It is a training like trying to build up a new muscle. And the results are magnificent: Meditating helps you reduce stress, deal better with daily situations, enhances health and sleeping skills, becoming more calm and happy with your life.
A very nice and easy way to uplift your energy is to write down things you are grateful for. As the neuronal system is reacting far more on it using a pen and paper I’d recommend that but there are also very nice apps like Gratitude 365 that make it very easy for you to upload a photo everyday and list what you were thankful on that day.
The feeling of gratitude is triggering the brain stem which then is pushing the production of dopamine, the hormone responsible to make us feeling happy. While looking for things we were enjoying through the day our hormone system additionally releases the hormone serotonin, another happiness hormone. So by writing down things or even only looking for things we are grateful for we will biologically enlighten our mood and therefor lift up your energy. As easy as it is.
One of my favourite tools is creating rituals. I love those facebook posts of my good friend Sisa from the Yoga Hive very much, that’s why I choose the photo here. But it shell not give a wrong impression: sure yoga or meditation can be a very helpful and good ritual. But you do not have to build an altar or become spiritual to have a ritual. There are far more simple things you can come up with.
Furthermore it does not mean I have the same rituals month after month. Actually I have a few rituals I developed over the last years and do not want to miss in my life anymore. The one that is accompanying me for the longest time is simply brewing a cup of sleeping tea in the night before I go to bed. To be honest most of the time I do not even empty the cup, sometimes I actually not drink one single zip of it. But it helps me slide into the closing of the day, like sounding the bell for the night. Or during a time where my life was shaking a little bit which made me sleep badly and feeling stressed all the time. Those weeks I got up in the morning, brewed myself a huge cup of tea and still in my pyjama I left the apartment for a walk. Not jogging, not walking from A to Z with a goal. Simply strolling along the canal, enjoying the first 15 to 20 minutes for myself before starting the day.
Maybe you even have a ritual already without being conscious about it. For example taking the last minutes before a big presentation going through the most important points. Or like my friend and great coach Gianna Possehl who favours stepping into a hidden corner like Amy Cuddy to raise up her arms for a few minutes to get into the power pose and prepare for her performance.
Another easy but very effective exercise is to write down all the things that you love doing. Also the small things that make you happy. You can either keep the list somewhere to pop it out in moments when you feel sad and low and check what you can do to make yourself feel better. Or you can pro-active integrate more of those things in your daily life.
A similar tool is to write down things that you do every typical day. And then you compare it with the list above. Make sure that the things on the first list become more space in your life than the things you only find on the second list.
Hug each other! Although you might consider the cultural acceptance in your country or the field you are working in, hugging is – if used appropriately – always a very welcome tool to connect socially and by it make the other person and also oneself feel better.
Not only that hugs bring health benefits to your body and mind, according to a study in 2015 with 404 health students at the Carnegie Mellon university, hugging reduces stress and increases happiness. Stimulating pressure receptors while hugging will lead to increase in vagal activity, which puts the person being hugged in a relaxed state. Mainly the release of the hormone oxytocin is triggered by the vagus nerve which will have the effects of decreasing the heart rate and increasing the levels of the happiness hormones dopamine and serotonin.
Hugging can therefor even reduce depression and anxiety as it is biologically uplifting your energy level.
The easiest way to uplift your energy level is a simple smile.
According to scientific research of Robert Zajonc and his colleagues smiling leads to physiological changes in the brain which results in cooling the blood, which in turn makes people feel happy. Their expermiments have shown that you can cause the same effects of positive emotion and cooler facial temperatures when you make people say the letter “e” or the sound “ah” over and over again, as these sounds make the face form a smile-like expression.
And remember what I told you about the mirror neurons a few minutes ago: when you smile at someone the other person will probably spontaneously smile back because of the mirror system. This is indeed the most simple way of being a peacemaker. By smiling at a stranger or a close person you raise both of your moods AND lift up the energy not only of yourself but the other person too. Isn’t that wonderful! And imagine how often you can use your power to do that every day.
These were a few ideas how you can be a peacemaker with small tools right away.
Some of you might think: Well, what if I just do not feel happy and my smile is not sincere. You are right. You must feel it by the heart, not only will the other person recognize if it is not true but also can it effect your health when you are only faking smiles or happy feelings as it would surpress your true emotions. If so I invite you to come on a journey with me.
It was a process for many years until today for myself to realize what really makes my heart jump and find the one thing I want to do. Additionally I believe you can only speak about the NOW as you never know about tomorrow. I am feeling more like a student who is eager to learn and experience every day. And I cordially invite you to do the same if you feel your life needs a change.
In the last years I developed a coaching program which allows me to support and enable others to do the same. Love Yourself More illustrates a loop of four steps starting with finding your true desires and goals for your life. Followed by the next step where one has to accept and realize that the situation he or she is in right now is the result of decisions made before. That also means you can make new decisions in the next minutes that can change your life into another direction. In general this goes along with letting go of the old which takes place in the third module of the program. Like in every module we look at all levels body, mind and soul to detox from things you don’t need anymore to move forward into your new life. And last but not least you need to open your heart again to embrace the new that will show up at your doorstep giving you the opportunity to grow and develop.
Now you know how your own shadows effect the happenings in the world. I hope I have inspired you to be more conscious with your energy level.
It is easy it is to Be A Peacemaker. It is up to each of one of us to act consciously so elections like the one in the U.S. two days ago will turn out differently next time.
Honestly, we need each and everyone of you. Start being a peacemaker!
Thank you for listening!
Love & Light